My Story

So just to put it all out there….I was a total wreck.

My little rock band was growing, we were touring the world and getting all these amazing opportunities…and I still wasn’t happy.

It took a minute, but I finally realized if I wanted to start feeling better, I’d have to get to work.

So that’s what I did.

I started paying attention to my own feelings, instead of dismissing them. I let my dreams and desires guide my future plans, rather than treating my soul like a distraction.

All that effort made a big difference, and I found I was feeling happier, and was more gentle with myself.

I couldn’t keep these findings all to myself. So I created a weekly youtube channel, The REL Show, where I could what I was learning with an audience who needed it was much as I did.

…But that’s only the half of it.

I began connecting with our fans on the road and teaching everything I was learning. I was the human guinea pig, trying out various self-help methods and techniques and reporting my findings back to our tribe.

I taught a class called Turn Your Pain Into Art in 30 cities across the U.S., and that became the starting point for my debut book.

Turn Your Pain Into Art is about connecting with your creative heart.

It’s about taking all the hurt and suffering we’ve got built up inside and transforming it into something useful, and maybe even one day something beautiful.

My band, Icon For Hire, is one of the primary ways I take my personal pain and use it for something better. We spend much of our time on the road, touring the world and spreading this message of self-empowerment.

I would love to meet you at a show!

I recently created Rockstar Crash Course, a digital course helping aspiring musicians get ahead.

Have a look around, learn more about heartart-making, and I’ll see you on the road!

Join the REL revolution.

I promise I won't ever spam you <3

Thank you for being such a real artist.
Chris Gage
You helped push me towards being a musician as well as overall healthier in the way I view myself.
Missy Nyx
When I listen to your music I feel like someone went inside my head and wrote about what they found there.
Mar Donadieu
You helped me see the value in myself when I thought my life wasn't worth living. I can't thank you enough.
Calvyn Villyard
You literally inspire me to do my best at and try my hardest with all I do, and that just because I’m a girl doesn’t mean I can’t do it.
You & your lyrics helped show me that i have the strength and the drive to get better. That I don't have to stay stuck in my mental illness.
You and your music have helped me realize that I can fight through my depression and also that I should create more art.
You made me realize that I'm not alone and that confidence is beautiful. Now I'm working on being confident. Thank you so much.
On days when I don't feel my best you remind me that it's ok to be sad, as long as you pick yourself up and never stop fighting.
Giselle Hernandez
You inspired me to break out of my own personal barricade, and write and score my own music.
Jonathan Salazar
You’re an inspiration. You proved that recovery from anxiety and depression is possible.
Sandrine Tan
Your music is a constant positive force in my life and makes me feel like I can get through anything. Thank you for everything you do!
Ariel gave me the exact kick in the ass that I needed in order to start taking back control of my life from depression.
Kristi Klein
Your music has gotten me through some of the worst times of my depression and PTSD.
Ashley Mulhearn
Because of you and your lyrics, I finally found the courage to do what I was born to do.
Liza Jean
You're the one who has motivated me to be more active with my career, so thanks for the videos!
Caleb Roberts

I've got a message for you: pain has a purpose.

We all have a lifetime worth of pent-up pain, and we each get to decide what to do with it. Will you let yours keep you small? Or will you forge your suffering into something beautiful?

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